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July 2016

Think of me when you poo

If you are reading this online, you are probably one of the world’s super rich (comparatively speaking). Your country has significant infrastructure, schools, multi vehicle homes, you may even have more than $50 to your name right now. Awesome. But most importantly, you get to poop in clean water.

No, seriously, if your city, state, country, etc. treats your water, they probably treat it all to the same exacting standards. It probably meets or exceeds The World Health Organization standards. This is because some people in your country are too poor to have running water in their home. They go to public faucets or wells to get what they need. Your country tries to make sure they have drinkable water.
But no one is going to make two separate treatment facilities and all that infrastructure, one for drinking and one for everything else. So all that water is good…relatively speaking. And you poop in it.

Millions of people on the planet have not even seen a five gallon bottle filled with purified water. Some may never get to drink clean water. And you poop in it.

Why? Because you can. Because we are ashamed of the waste we create and because we are distanced from the cost.
Everyone with pipes bringing water to their home pays to support the infrastructure, taxes, tuition, all that. So your water bill looks like just $30-50 a month. Not the true energy, infrastructure, environmental and labor costs.
Our opaque walls don’t let us see the millions of gallons in the pipes in buildings, and streets. Think of Septic tanks, swimming pools, water towers, baby diaper and sanitary pad gels that trap water, car radiators, the list goes on. Who is that water stolen/borrowed from? The water in the water Cycle cools the entire planet…or it is supposed to. So are we stealing from everyone?
And how much is that really?Flushing a 4 gallon toilet 3 times a day for 32 years is 140,256 gallons and that is on the low side. 500,000 people would use 6,000,000 gallons in one day at that rate.
So yeah, when you think of those people suffering from a drought, the raging wildfires, lack of access to clean water, think of how much water does not run through the rivers and streams, because it runs through your pipes. How many clouds are trapped in your pipes. How many rain clouds have you pooped in?

Ancilleno Davis, PhD. Candidate
Ecology, Evolution and Environmental Biology- Miami University, Oxford Ohio

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Live or die

The big problem with the world is a bunch of people who can choose how they live, choose to make a living killing other people.
And then there are a bunch of people who can only choose how they die. So they choose to die killing the people that live to kill them.

Ancilleno Davis, PhD. Candidate
Ecology, Evolution and Environmental Biology- Miami University, Oxford Ohio

How to visit the baby

So, you got this link. Maybe someone actually feels ready to have guests over after the craziness of having a baby. 

10: It’s not all about you.

If you haven’t been invited yet, your thank you notes have not been sent, you did not get a phone call…etc. um…yeah. The new parents are crazy busy. Things fall through the cracks. The last thing they need is a call or email about how offended you are. So don’t. What you can do is call and say “Hey, I know you guys are gonna be crazy busy with your new bundle of joy. Do you need someone to walk your dogs?” *Shout out to Cassandra Colton for offering and taking such good care of Sokka and Neji!* if you want to be a part of this special occasion, focus on the things you can do to support their mental health and well being.

9: OK. Some of it is about you.

Health and hygiene mostly, but manners especially. It’s a new baby, learning how to be a human…hopefully a quality human, healthy, happy, respectful and kind. So about you, that extra spray of cologne or perfume, or a couple beers on your breath… The baby doesn’t need it, but yes, please brush those teeth and take a bath maybe. Baby’s immune system is still on training wheels, so let’s wash those hands too. And guess what, babies start assimilating the sounds that make up language almost right away, so personally, I would avoid the profanity and the yelling. Who you are is up to you. But who we let be around our baby and hold him, is up to us. #imjustsaying

8: Is there a doctor in the house?

Now along with things you can do for us, come offering your professional recommendations. Everyone has them. You may have been one of the people encouraging us to have a baby for the 8 years we were married (none of your business by the way). Perhaps you are a botanist and you can say “Hey, that plant is toxic, make sure the baby does not put that in his mouth later.” But, chances are, we have already long chosen our pediatrician, obstetrician, doula etc. and we have read a million pages of the most up to date baby related science as well as the doom and gloom. So, unless you are a practicing physician in a child birth, or pediatric field,that has seen our medical history, please do not recant to us what you read on Facebook about things that can hurt babies. No, not even if your sister’s aunt’s brother’s friend’s bartender on your mommy side has a stepson it happened to. Just don’t. Personally, just getting a baby to term is crazy stressful, so if the baby is almost here and we are planning on birth or the stork has landed and we have our package in hand, your scary stories don’t help. Moms that have had babies get a special pass to say affirmative things, like oh, that will get better or you will love [enter weird pregnancy thing]. Men…shhhhhhhh.

7: Our superstitions versus yours.

Now I humbly accept that families have traditions. We all do. Some of those are superstitions and thank you for sharing. I find them interesting. But do not push. We probably will not be buying a chihuahua to sleep with the baby to prevent asthma or putting an open pair of scissors under his pillow or feeding him a spoon full of Vicks vapor rub… Yeah these are real things. 

6: The other kids…

Yours, ours, other people’s. Please, know that we want our kid(s) to be awesome, and yeah, that means the best they can be. Not judging your kids, but maybe. If your kid is a bit much for you to handle, spits, bites, is generally destructive or violent, maybe we should wait until our kid is older, or we can all agree to have them in the same room. And about our kids, this includes dogs… If we are inviting you over to meet our new baby, you probably met our kids already. Be honest with yourself. If you can’t handle them, tell us. For me, I do not mind you asking my dogs to go sit somewhere else, ask us how you should treat them and our discipline boundaries. I think I may feel the same with our son, but this may change. Basically, don’t put us in a situation where we have to mind your kids as well as ours.

5: Are you hungry?

We probably are. And the new mom probably has not had any fast food or take out for about nine months. Bring food or offer to bring food, maybe come over and cook.

4: Timing: Early, Late, and time to go.

3: House rules.

2: Parents rule.

1: Baby is number 1

Demons inside

So…I lucid dream. Most of the time, when I go to sleep I dream. If I make an effort to write them down right away I can get the whole thing out. Unfortunately, I am growing up. So now, when I dream, before I can lucid dream I have to recognize it for a dream. Then I realize the futility of any accomplishment in the dream world and the stresses from the real world start to leak in. This usually causes me to wake up, because I need to write my dissertation. Boring.
However, I also just realized (while awake) that all the demons I have ever fought in the dream world still live in my head…or are buried there I guess. Maybe, I can put away the flying and breathing underwater stuff for now and just go back to demon slaying and bmx riding.

Ancilleno Davis, PhD. Candidate
Ecology, Evolution and Environmental Biology- Miami University, Oxford Ohio

My joy is >< your joy

How many of you have someone in your life that says “that person did it better than you.” “You don’t make as much as [insert name here]” “If only you were [insert comparison] like [blank]”.

Here’s the thing. Those people either compare themselves too often to people they are nothing like, or do not challenge themselves enough to become better than those around them. 

As long as you can say to yourself, “I am doing well and I can sleep with myself at night”, keep going. Don’t let their words bring you down. 1: they do not know how hard you work or how much personal satisfaction you get. 2: they probably know even less about the person they are comparing you to. Their struggles, stresses and debts etc. 

oh yeah, don’t let that person comparing you to someone else be you.

“Comparison is the thief of all joy.” – Miggety July 5 via Facebook.

Where we root

I think this is the sentiment so many people from the Bahamas and Mexico and even the USA are sharing now. I love being part of a global community with friends and colleagues around the world. My heart is in the Bahamas, but my mind contains a hundred countries, some of which I have never seen. I hope Leo gets to see even more.

A THOUGHT FOR TODAY from AWAD:
Human nature will not flourish, any more than a potato, if it be planted and replanted, for too long a series of generations, in the same worn-out soil. My children have had other birthplaces, and, so far as their fortunes may be within my control, shall strike their roots into unaccustomed earth. -Nathaniel Hawthorne, writer (4 Jul 1804-1864)

Ancilleno Davis, PhD. Candidate
Ecology, Evolution and Environmental Biology- Miami University, Oxford Ohio

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